We’ve all been there––you hit up an old fling to end a dry spell the length of eternity. You can’t remember the last time you had an orgasm, or you and your partner’s sex life is starting to feel more stale than steamy. Sexual frustration is tough, full stop. It can occur with people who
November 02, 2022 by bespoke
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Believe it or not, anal pap smears are not as common as they should be. At Bespoke Surgical, Dr. Goldstein has been at the forefront of educating people about what they are, who should get them, why you should get them, and how often you should get them. Everyone, especially those who engage in anal
May 18, 2022 by bespoke
The anus is not only our most valuable asset, but it’s also one of our most delicate. It’s quite a vulnerable part of the body with very tender, thin skin. When it’s even the slightest bit irritated or inflamed, you’re bound to notice. You may be wondering – ‘Why is my anus swollen?’ – and
March 17, 2022 by bespoke
Get to Know Your Inner A**hole For many, sharing sexual pleasure may be a form of art, but there’s also plenty of science behind it—particularly when it involves, well, the behind. Yes, we’re talking about anal sex—and by the way, these days, anal sex is not primarily the territory of gay men. Recent surveys suggest
February 21, 2022 by bespoke
Millions of Americans identify as LGBTQ+. As the understanding of human sexuality and gender identity grows, knowledge can bring us together and foster deeper empathy. Language exists to clarify, but how familiar is the average American with LGBTQ+ terminology? Like any group, the LGBTQ+ community has its own language to express who they are and
January 20, 2022 by bespoke
How we communicate matters. The first step to creating more inclusive spaces is using language that makes all parties involved feel comfortable and supported. In the spirit of validating others by using inclusive and identity-affirming language, we produced a glossary of LGBTQ+ terms. Disclaimer: By no means is this meant to be a comprehensive list.
January 20, 2022 by bespoke
Whether you’re looking for a bit more comfort in your usual routine or hoping to spice it up with something new, sex pillows might just be the solution to test out. What Is a Sex Pillow? Sex pillows are firm cushions designed to support your body during intimacy. Coming in a variety of shapes and
October 28, 2021 by bespoke
What Is a Rim Job? A rim job — also known as rimming or analingus — is the act of using one’s mouth and tongue to pleasure your partner’s anus. Rim jobs can involve licking, sucking and kissing, and any other oral-to-anal contact. Anal rimming can involve inserting the tongue into the anus, circling around
October 15, 2021 by bespoke
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The ongoing taboo associated with watching porn has lifted in recent years, as Americans continue to be more sexually adventurous. Gone are the days of hushed tones and shameful confessions that have (historically) been synonymous with porn viewership. People––across genders, generations, and sexual orientations––are more open and honest about their porn-viewing habits than ever before.
October 13, 2021 by bespoke
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We’ve all gotten the question. You know, the one that makes you panic, squirm, and run quick mental calculations, hoping your answer is acceptable. What’s your number? And, no, we don’t mean your credit score. We’re talking about your number of sexual partners.
June 24, 2021 by bespoke
Anal fingering refers to the process of inserting a finger or multiple fingers into the anus, either by a partner or for self-pleasure. Anal fingering does not involve the whole hand, as that would be described as anal fisting. Fingering is generally a good starting point for those wanting to try out anal play but are not ready for full penetration with a penis or larger toy.
June 16, 2021 by Dr. Evan Goldstein