The experts at Bespoke Surgical have compiled eight essential steps for being a good bottom partner. From diet to positioning to toys, we’ve covered it all to ensure you’re both prepared and able to have the best experience possible.
June 10, 2022 by Dr. Evan Goldstein
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Anal fisting, not to be confused with vaginal fisting, is when one person inserts their entire hand into the anus of another. Though called “fisting,” the hand isn’t always positioned into a fist, although this can be achieved gradually. What’s commonly referred to as fisting can actually be an extension of the fingers into the anus up to or almost to the wrist. Think of the positioning as your four fingers leaning over to meet the pad of your thumb, creating a kind of cone shape or what most people call a ‘duck bill’.
April 19, 2021 by Dr. Evan Goldstein
General, Education, Health
As humans, we’re creatures of habit. Once we find a few go-to sex positions that tickle our fancy, we soon find ourselves cycling through a few common sex positions over and over. For many, a healthy rotation of tried-and-true sex positions is preferred because these are the positions that we genuinely enjoy most with our partners or where climaxing is guaranteed.
March 23, 2021 by bespoke
General, Education, Health
If you’ve ever taken a trip overseas, you know that culture shock can be very real. Different etiquette around tipping and different local cuisines are waiting to surprise Americans wherever they go. One less-talked-about culture shock faced by many Americans is their discovery of a bidet in their hotel bathroom overseas.
January 08, 2021 by bespoke
Anal sex can cause prostatitis if not done properly. Anal sex is truly an art, with many intricacies that can complicate the act. The prostate gland is walnut-shaped and fills with fluid to help your sperm during ejaculation.
November 13, 2020 by Dr. Evan Goldstein
Education, Health, General
Advertisers will tell you that “sex sells” just about any product on the market, but when it comes to the sex product industry, what’s really making a splash in our shifting culture around sex. In recent years, mainstream pop culture has started to move toward a more “sex-positive” outlook, bringing various issues out of the shadows and getting people talking about what they really need in the bedroom.
October 27, 2020 by bespoke
At Bespoke Surgical, we are committed to educating our patients and community about the healthiest sexual practices for themselves and for their partners – whether that be through providing proper education around anal play in our Tales from the Tail series, Dr. Evan Goldstein’s advocacy work, or any other initiative we take on.
July 29, 2020 by bespoke
In recent years, the body confidence movement has found its stride across social media. Many young people are working to dismantle body ideals communicated by the media, and to instead find confidence from within. Here at Bespoke Surgical, we’ve seen firsthand just how much body image issues can impact a healthy sex life.
June 12, 2020 by bespoke
Kegels are pelvic floor muscle exercises for men and women. The Pelvic floor muscles are like a hammock between the pubic bone and coccyx bone and form a bowl shape of muscles that control urination, defecation, internal organ support, core support, and help with sexual function.
May 27, 2020 by Dr. Evan Goldstein
Bespoke Surgical has always been about the butt, but when it comes to anal sex, why should all the responsibility fall into the hands of the bottom? Tops should come to the bedroom with a full understanding of the ins and outs (pun intended) of the proper mechanics and the science behind bottoming.
April 06, 2020 by Dr. Evan Goldstein
Oral sex is just one way to give or receive pleasure, so why are there so many opinions, feelings, and stereotypes surrounding the topic? Because we’re human, of course. And humans and sex have a complex relationship, to say the least!
March 09, 2020 by bespoke