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Click to read The Best U.S. Cities to Get Lucky

The Best U.S. Cities to Get Lucky

Which cities have the sauciest hookup scene or the most opportunities to score? We’ve scoured locations across the country to find which ones have the most singles, minimal sexual frustration, the highest number of bars, adult entertainment clubs, and other indicators of a thriving hookup culture – all to help you find the perfect place

March 02, 2023 by bespoke

Click to read Quizzing Americans on LGBTQ Terms

Quizzing Americans on LGBTQ Terms

Millions of Americans identify as LGBTQ+. As the understanding of human sexuality and gender identity grows, knowledge can bring us together and foster deeper empathy. Language exists to clarify, but how familiar is the average American with LGBTQ+ terminology? Like any group, the LGBTQ+ community has its own language to express who they are and

January 20, 2022 by bespoke

Click to read Glossary of LGBTQ+ Terms

Glossary of LGBTQ+ Terms

How we communicate matters. The first step to creating more inclusive spaces is using language that makes all parties involved feel comfortable and supported. In the spirit of validating others by using inclusive and identity-affirming language, we produced a glossary of LGBTQ+ terms. Disclaimer: By no means is this meant to be a comprehensive list.

January 20, 2022 by bespoke

Click to read What Is Rectal Prolapse? Discover Symptoms, Causes & Surgery

What Is Rectal Prolapse? Discover Symptoms, Causes & Surgery

What is Rectal Prolapse? Rectal prolapse is when your rectum — the last section of your large intestine — drops and pushes through your anus. In the anal sex community, especially those who identify as gay, this is commonly referred to as a “rosebud,” and the act of pushing it out is known as “blooming.”

January 19, 2022 by bespoke

Click to read The United States of Sexual Frustration

The United States of Sexual Frustration

We’ve all been there––you hit up an old fling to end a dry spell the length of eternity. You can’t remember the last time you had an orgasm, or you and your partner’s sex life is starting to feel more stale than steamy. Sexual frustration is tough, full stop. It can occur with people who

January 02, 2022 by bespoke

Click to read Why You Want To Try A Sex Pillow – And How To Use It

Why You Want To Try A Sex Pillow – And How To Use It

Whether you’re looking for a bit more comfort in your usual routine or hoping to spice it up with something new, sex pillows might just be the solution to test out. What Is a Sex Pillow? Sex pillows are firm cushions designed to support your body during intimacy. Coming in a variety of shapes and

October 28, 2021 by bespoke

Click to read The Ultimate Guide to Rim Jobs

The Ultimate Guide to Rim Jobs

What Is a Rim Job? A rim job — also known as rimming or analingus — is the act of using one’s mouth and tongue to pleasure your partner’s anus. Rim jobs can involve licking, sucking and kissing, and any other oral-to-anal contact. Anal rimming can involve inserting the tongue into the anus, circling around

October 15, 2021 by bespoke

Click to read Porn Usage in America & Changing Attitudes Toward Porn

Porn Usage in America & Changing Attitudes Toward Porn

The ongoing taboo associated with watching porn has lifted in recent years, as Americans continue to be more sexually adventurous. Gone are the days of hushed tones and shameful confessions that have (historically) been synonymous with porn viewership. People––across genders, generations, and sexual orientations––are more open and honest about their porn-viewing habits than ever before.

October 13, 2021 by bespoke

Click to read The Average Number of Sexual Partners Across America

The Average Number of Sexual Partners Across America

We’ve all gotten the question. You know, the one that makes you panic, squirm, and run quick mental calculations, hoping your answer is acceptable. What’s your number? And, no, we don’t mean your credit score. We’re talking about your number of sexual partners.

June 24, 2021 by bespoke

Click to read An Expert’s Guide to Anal Fingering

An Expert’s Guide to Anal Fingering

Anal fingering refers to the process of inserting a finger or multiple fingers into the anus, either by a partner or for self-pleasure. Anal fingering does not involve the whole hand, as that would be described as anal fisting. Fingering is generally a good starting point for those wanting to try out anal play but are not ready for full penetration with a penis or larger toy.

June 16, 2021 by Dr. Evan Goldstein

Click to read Anal Fisting for Beginners: A Fisting Guide

Anal Fisting for Beginners: A Fisting Guide

Anal fisting, not to be confused with vaginal fisting, is when one person inserts their entire hand into the anus of another. Though called “fisting,” the hand isn’t always positioned into a fist, although this can be achieved gradually. What’s commonly referred to as fisting can actually be an extension of the fingers into the anus up to or almost to the wrist. Think of the positioning as your four fingers leaning over to meet the pad of your thumb, creating a kind of cone shape or what most people call a ‘duck bill’.

April 19, 2021 by Dr. Evan Goldstein

Click to read America’s Favorite Sex Positions

America’s Favorite Sex Positions

As humans, we’re creatures of habit. Once we find a few go-to sex positions that tickle our fancy, we soon find ourselves cycling through a few common sex positions over and over. For many, a healthy rotation of tried-and-true sex positions is preferred because these are the positions that we genuinely enjoy most with our partners or where climaxing is guaranteed.

March 23, 2021 by bespoke

Click to read Why Americans Don’t Use Bidets (And Why We Should)

Why Americans Don’t Use Bidets (And Why We Should)

If you’ve ever taken a trip overseas, you know that culture shock can be very real. Different etiquette around tipping and different local cuisines are waiting to surprise Americans wherever they go. One less-talked-about culture shock faced by many Americans is their discovery of a bidet in their hotel bathroom overseas.

January 08, 2021 by bespoke