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Click to read How Long Do Americans Spend on the Toilet?

How Long Do Americans Spend on the Toilet?

Most people do not think twice about how long they spend in the bathroom. But whether someone is straining to finish a bowel movement, scrolling TikTok, answering a text, or grabbing a few extra minutes of peace, a quick toilet trip can turn into much more. To find out how much time Americans spend on

November 02, 2026 by Bespoke Surgical

Click to read Anal Fisting for Beginners: A Fisting Guide

Anal Fisting for Beginners: A Fisting Guide

Anal fisting, not to be confused with vaginal fisting, is when one person inserts their entire hand into the anus of another. Though called “fisting,” the hand isn’t always positioned into a fist, although this can be achieved gradually. What’s commonly referred to as fisting can actually be an extension of the fingers into the anus up to or almost to the wrist. Think of the positioning as your four fingers leaning over to meet the pad of your thumb, creating a kind of cone shape or what most people call a “duck bill”.

November 14, 2024 by Dr. Evan Goldstein

Click to read How Many Dating App Matches Does It Take To Find A Hookup?

How Many Dating App Matches Does It Take To Find A Hookup?

When it comes to finding a hookup on dating apps, it’s truly a numbers game. But what does the lead time between a match and a sexy rendezvous look like for dating app users and what percentage of Americans’ matches are converting into a hookup (i.e., any activity beyond kissing or making out)? We went

March 03, 2024 by Bespoke Surgical

Click to read The Landscaping “Down There” Survey

The Landscaping “Down There” Survey

What does the modern American’s hair removal routine really look like and what’s the motivation behind it? Are we tidying the proverbial “hedges” for our romantic rendezvous, or is hair removal a matter of personal pride and comfort? And the burning question on everyone’s lips: what’s coming off and what’s staying on? These are pressing

January 02, 2024 by Bespoke Surgical

Click to read The Nudity Confidence Survey

The Nudity Confidence Survey

The recent Vanderpump Rules drama has captivated audiences in the reality TV universe and shined a spotlight on a topic that resonates deeply in today’s pop culture: body confidence. Amidst a widely-publicized cheating scandal (coined #Scandoval), the fallout revealed a surprising revelation—an alleged lack of intimacy traced back to a struggle with body confidence. Drama

July 30, 2023 by Bespoke Surgical

Click to read The Best U.S. Cities to Get Lucky

The Best U.S. Cities to Get Lucky

Which cities have the sauciest hookup scene or the most opportunities to score? We’ve scoured locations across the country to find which ones have the most singles, minimal sexual frustration, the highest number of bars, adult entertainment clubs, and other indicators of a thriving hookup culture, all to help you find the perfect place to

May 31, 2023 by Bespoke Surgical

Click to read How Often Should You Use an Enema?

How Often Should You Use an Enema?

Regardless of the subject, it never hurts to circle back to the basics periodically, and we’d like to revisit a topic we’ve touched on in other places at various points: enemas.

April 28, 2023 by Dr. Evan Goldstein

Click to read Proctologist vs Gastroenterologist: What’s the Difference?

Proctologist vs Gastroenterologist: What’s the Difference?

Unless you work in medicine, you may be thinking to yourself: what’s the difference between a proctologist and a gastroenterologist? While they are related, they each focus on different parts of the body, and thus different pathologies and issues. This guide will help you determine if you should see us here at Bespoke Surgical, or

April 20, 2023 by Bespoke Surgical

Click to read PSA: Bleeding After Anal Sex Is Not Normal

PSA: Bleeding After Anal Sex Is Not Normal

There is nothing normal about bleeding with anal intercourse. While it may be common, it is not normal. Last night, I stopped by the podcast GayTalk 2.0 for my regular appearance, during which we spoke of last week’s double penetration blog post and the repercussions to boot.

February 15, 2023 by Dr. Evan Goldstein

Click to read What to Do if You Have a Ruptured Hemorrhoid

What to Do if You Have a Ruptured Hemorrhoid

A ruptured hemorrhoid is exactly what it sounds like. When you have a hemorrhoid that fills up with too much blood, it bursts. Before we dive deeper into ruptured hemorrhoids, let’s do a quick refresher on hemorrhoids themselves. Hemorrhoids result from increased pressure in the veins of the anus, which causes them to bulge and

December 16, 2022 by Dr. Evan Goldstein

Click to read Loose Anal Muscles: How to Tighten Your Anus & Gain Sphincter Strength

Loose Anal Muscles: How to Tighten Your Anus & Gain Sphincter Strength

I spend a lot of time educating my clients on the right way to begin engaging as a bottom, but after years of anal play, something else many bottoms are concerned with is the possibility of loosening up their sphincters too much.

December 12, 2022 by Dr. Evan Goldstein

Click to read The Most Popular Sex Toys in America: State Map and Sex Toy Statistics

The Most Popular Sex Toys in America: State Map and Sex Toy Statistics

By Dr. Evan Goldstein | Originally published August 29, 2022 | Updated October 22, 2026 Sex toys aren’t a whispered topic anymore. At Bespoke Surgical, we see them as part of self-care, whether you’re exploring solo or with a partner. A toy can stretch out foreplay, make the build-up more intense, and help you learn

August 29, 2022 by Bespoke Surgical

Click to read Bottoming 101: 8 Tips to be a Better Bottom

Bottoming 101: 8 Tips to be a Better Bottom

The experts at Bespoke Surgical have compiled eight essential steps for being a good bottom partner. From diet to positioning to toys, we’ve covered it all to ensure you’re both prepared and able to have the best experience possible.

June 10, 2022 by Dr. Evan Goldstein